This is based solely on the experiences of my veteran friends, as well as my own with a past paramour. The military teaches service members to trust their unit, and few others. If he comes to you with a problem, chances are he’ll talk about it until he no longer wants to and then go into lockdown. That is not a good thing or a bad thing, that is just a matter of fact and something you need to understand. Military men are used to their band of brothers, and are bred to be loyal and protective. Some branches of the military (I’m looking at you, Marines) have a feeling of superiority over others.
This list is not simply a composition of pros or cons, but rather an overview of what dating a service member active duty or veteran — is like. They are meant to be extremely close with this group of people and everyone else is simply on a need-to-know basis. It is not a competition between his military friends and you; they are people who shared a very intimate part of his life, and you should want to be close with them, too. He will love you fiercely and be the most faithful companion, if you can promise the same. Granted, that is earned due to the nature of their work and how much they put on the line.
Although there are many benefits to being in the military, it comes with many sacrifices and it isn’t for everyone.
It’s for reasons like this I’d never considered dating someone in the military, but then I did.
But military life (and military relationships) seem to move just a little faster and need more planning than others. You will put up with deployment, weird shifts, emergencies, trainings, and a whole bunch of other stuff that will happen at inopportune times and will be the least helpful thing.
If you’re teetering on the edge of this particular path, think through the lifestyle before you jump in:(And don’t date him/her if you believe that “everyone cheats” during deployment.) Period. (So do people in the civilian world.) But that doesn’t mean everyone does, that we all agree with it, or that it’s even the “norm.” You will be separated from the person you love at some point during their career in the military. It’s okay to get frustrated, be angry, and cry, but you’ve got to pick yourself up and move on.
Connect with others in your community through Facebook groups, blogs and community events.) 3 years as I talk to more and more military significant others who have successful relationships. Some of us genuinely like it; others of us put up with it because it is a condition of being attached to the person we love.And I want to be clear: those of us who date or marry someone in the military are no better or worse than any other significant other.Researching this post, I found much of the advice for military girlfriends discouraging. It made me think back to my days as a military girlfriend and how small the military community made me feel at times. I was a young professional with a career and my own money.It hurt most at the time because my service member and I had been together for years. In the civilian community, people wouldn’t dream of constantly reminding you of “your place.”.